Integrity Matters
August 23, 2006
If you can't beat 'em, sue 'em
Question: (E-251)
Dear Jim:
Lawsuits abound throughout the United States. What does
this say about our society?
Response:
Lawyers did not create a litigious climate alone. Individuals
hire attorneys to do their dirty work. And, why is this
happening? Family, community, civility and social awareness
are taking a beating.
There was a time when society
accepted responsibility for those who were unable to
care for themselves. No more! When individuals, families,
communities and nations become increasingly isolated,
culturally and economically, then rudeness and intolerance
can prevail. Insensitivity leads to chaos in the form
of road rage, domestic violence and even global conflict.
Without relationships, mutual respect disappears.
"Get 'err done" is a mantra of the blue-collar comedy tour. Out of
time, pressured and frantic adults demand "instant everything", risking
important relationships!
How frequently do today's families eat meals together,
discussing common concerns that can strengthen the fragile
family structure?
Soccer "moms" and coaching "dads" drive to endless events,
often hurried. What are children learning from adults who preach follow the rules
while violating speed laws with fuzz busters and laser "neutralizers"?
Technology and medical science have teamed up to provide
instant gratification. Products that only a few years
ago would never have been discussed in polite company
are now broadcast 24 hours a day. Chemical solutions
for sexual dysfunctions are advertised by former presidential
candidates. Intimacy is now on the "clock" -
having become for many a physical-biological transaction instead of a life-affirming
relationship.
"Go, girl" is short-hand for congratulations, best wishes and we are
rooting for you. "High fives" replace phrases like "thank you
for doing well for the team" or "we are really proud of you." It
is an efficient way to communicate, and you must accept it or you are not current.
Until crude and vicious language and actions are replaced
by thoughtful communications and gracious behaviors,
then isolation and frustration will generate even more
litigation, tension and conflict.
Integrity-centered relationships involving graciousness
will increase insights and understanding, while reducing
the tremendous costs that are created by needless conflict
between individuals, families and societies.
