Resources...
Parenting
with Integrity:
Teaching Integrity-Centered
Leadership to Children
by Modeling Integrity-Centered Behaviors
Saint Andrew's
School
Parents' Association - STAR speaker
series
13601 Saratoga Avenue
Saratoga, California 95070-5055
James F. Bracher: "Parenting with Integrity:
Teaching Integrity-Centered Leadership to Children"
Monday, Oct. 24, 2005, 8:30 a.m.
Saratoga Community Center
Arts and Crafts Room
13777 Fruitvale Avenue
Saratoga
408.868.1200
Jim comes to Saint Andrew's to discuss with parents ways to introduce
and apply integrity-centered leadership. His process engages the entire family
and is based on the Eight Attributes© of an integrity-centered organization
(Character, Honesty, Openness, Authority, Partnership, Performance, Charity,
and Graciousness). Parents will learn how to demonstrate to others, including
children, the importance of integrity at home, at school, and in life. Jim
asks those attending to ask questions and join the discussion.
Applying
Eight Attributes of an Integrity-Centered Organization©
by James F. Bracher October 24, 2005
1. CHARACTER: consistency between word and
deed.
Do my parents exhibit congruence between what they say and what they do, as
well as what they say about what they did? Do they exhibit the right behavior?
- Respect yourself and others
- Be an example of courage (fair, firm, consistent
and kind)
- Care about other people around you
- What people do when no one is watching
2. HONESTY: truthful communication.
Do you have confidence that your parents would never engage in or sanction
misrepresentation?
- Listen openly
- Be honest and tell the truth
- Respond with care
3. OPENNESS: operational transparency.
Do I, as a child in my family, understand what is important to my parents?
Do I know what makes them happy and sad? Am I comfortable asking my parents
what they love and fear?
- Know and understand the rules
- Help others to make use of all that our family has
to offer
4. AUTHORITY: family member encouragement.
Are you able to correct mistakes? When I say or do something that is wrong,
can I make it right? Do you have confidence that your actions will be supported?
- Use common sense to do the right thing
- Know that you have the right to do something, to
take action
- Explain when actions have been taken that might
not fit with our family's rules
- Listen, think and learn from what has been done
right, and what has been done wrong
5. PARTNERSHIP: honor obligations.
Do your parents pride themselves on the timely fulfillment of all commitments?
- Be on time, every time
- Be prepared: Think, Plan, Do --- in that order
- Look for ways to help one another --- and then pitch
in!
- Leave things better than you find them
- Be a good citizen
6. PERFORMANCE: accountability throughout the
organization.
When members of the family fall short of promises, is compassion shown? Is
supportive guidance offered? Is everyone clear on the consequences when rules
are broken and promises are unfulfilled? Are penalties handed out fairly?
- Live up to promises
- Understand and follow the rules
- Respect others: their rights,
their property, their feelings
- Own-up to your own actions
--- what has been done right, and what has been done
wrong
The
( ) Family Member Pledge
I will treat family
and friends with courtesy and respect at
all times.
I will be accountable
for my own actions.
I will do my part
to take good care of my family, our home
and our reputation.
I will be considerate
of those around me.
I will obey the rules.
As a ( ) family member,
I will do my best
to be a responsible child or adult at all
times.
|
|
Signed and displayed prominently - by
all stakeholders
7. CHARITY: generous community stewardship.
Does your family reach out to those in need?
- Give to others with no strings attached --- don't
expect to get anything back
- Make sure the right tools, materials and help are
available in and through our family
- Demonstrate the story of how members of our family
support one another, and others less fortunate
8. GRACIOUSNESS: respect and discipline.
Does your family demonstrate care and concern for all members of the family?
- Be kind - not cruel or sarcastic
- Be thoughtful - not judging (listen and learn
about others)
- Be patient - not rude (allow others to finish
their thoughts)
- Be helpful - not harmful
- Remember that we are more alike than different
- Understand
- Appreciate
- Accept differences
- Work with others
As we think...
One evening a wise grandmother told her grandson about
a battle that goes on inside people.
"Dear child," she said, "the battle
is between two ‘wolves' inside us all. One
is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance,
self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false
pride, superiority and ego."
"The other is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity,
humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity,
truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then
asked his grandmother: "Which wolf wins?"
The grandmother replied, "The one you feed."
Personal application:
"LET THERE BE PEACE ON EARTH AND LET IT BEGIN WITH
ME."
